Besides being a very unfortunate thing to say to your darling, the above are words I’ve often said to myself lately.
The bitch’s habit is to tell myself every sluggish morning: “Get the fuck up.” But I try to change it and add at least some nice word at the end: “Get the fuck up… baby. I mean, get up, baby. That’s what I wanted to say. Baby.”
Cos I decided I’d be good to myself. It’s a long-term commitment that I’ve entered into some time ago to get healthier. And when I say healthier, I mean that on every level. So I decided not only to change my unhealthy thinking habits like criticizing myself e.g. for lying in, but also to adopt things like regular exercise and having dinner everyday.
And why am I (over-)sharing stuff like that with you?
Because I’ve seen too many people tormenting themselves with self-criticism (I’m not [insert adjective] enough, I’m such a bad person), and harming themselves through overwork (But I have to work!), substance abuse (C’mon, it’s just beer), or plain self-neglect (I’m fine, I don’t need a doctor). It’s actually scary how much harm people do to themselves.
And I know they’ll continue doing it regardless of what I may write here. Some people just won’t admit they’re harming themselves.
Still, I want to say that harming yourself won’t make things better. And, simple as it is, you’re the one who’s empowered to make them better.
So don’t be bad to yourself… darlings.
And take care.