One of my biggest first-world problems is I don’t much like shopping for clothes, and sometimes I feel forced to do it because clothes tend to fray, tear, and die, and you should then replace them.
So, sometimes I do go to a shop and buy clothes. But what I saw this Friday (at a place I have no intention of advertising here) annoyed me so much that I’ll probably put off the next instance of necessary shopping for as long as I can.
Seriously, world, are we now going to shame people who are currently unable to be “positive”? And are we going to label those who smile “cool” as if the fact of smiling instead of being sad/angry/anything-other-than-happy really made someone cooler?
…Yup, I know they’re just innocent T-shirts, designed by innocent designers, and I don’t mind them at all. But they both reminded me of the hundreds of times when I heard people saying things like “don’t be so negative,” “you should smile more,” or “you’re so pretty, why are you sad?”
Because you see, when you are pessimistic, you apparently spoil your interlocutor’s day by forcing them to tell you to stop being pessimistic. And when you don’t smile, you spoil it even more: no one likes a sad face. And if you’re considered pretty, but your mood is low, then the pretty picture your interlocutor could be seeing has a terrible, terrible glitch that prevents them from enjoying the conversation.
Because, all in all, negativity, pessimism, and sadness are horrific crimes in the world of happy-looking people who laugh and splash pool water at each other in advertisements.
I’ll tell you what, world. 1) Being pessimistic from time to time is normal, and some people are born more pessimistic than others, so being more pessimistic in general is normal for them. 2) Smiling is not possible at all times, especially when you experience the normal human emotions such as sadness, disappointment, or anger. 3) Smiling is usually a sign of other emotions, such as happiness or enjoyment, but it isn’t in any way connected to what people call “prettiness”.
In other words, you can’t have people smile and be positive all the time. Why would anyone want to? To see smiling faces around and feel good?
It’s good to feel good, but there’s so much more to other people than their capacity for making you feel good. They can be terrific friends, great artists, interesting interlocutors, you name it.
You know such people. They don’t always smile. Of course they don’t always smile.
:(( :C :”( :S :<
D: O: ):
…in your face, world.